We are all Heartless Bitches

I just got this bulleting in myspace:

Ladies always bitch and bitch to their friends that there is never any good guys out there anymore, and they always end up with assholes who treat them bad. Well ladies next time your bitching, maybe look up to see who your bitching too, maybe that special someone is right there hanging on your every word like usual, screaming in his head "why don't you give me a try?"
Because the person you are usually searching for is right by you. *And yadayadayada...

My Response:
Nothing against the person I last got this post from, just this kind of post in general. Most women I know do not have or want the 'bad guy' but most men aren't this pure 'good guy' they claim to be. I love my man, even though he's not some perfect gentleman. I wouldn't want him to act like someone he is not.

This site is fun, check it out:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/ngc/ngi-1.shtml
But why are "nice guys" misogynists? In the book "The Gift of Fear," Gavin DeBecker defines "niceness" as a "strategy of social interaction" and not evidence of innate goodness. So what he is saying is that being "nice" merely means your behavior is not offensive but does not mean your motives are automatically pure or good. Being a "nice guy" has been discussed elsewhere so there is no need to go into great detail here, but the bottom line is that trying to "be nice" or to use one's social charm to achieve one's social or sexual objectives is just as manipulative as anything else. The details are different, but what is at the core is the same.